What happens in pregnancy, labour and birth all impact how a woman becomes a mother and cares for her babies. These are the years that are formative, creating ripples that can affect generations of family to come.
I’ve come to realise that women aren’t able to entirely "recover” from each chapter of motherhood. Instead, we only continue to build upon the many tiers of our journey.
Pregnancy, on into Birth, on into Postpartum. Each tier morphing and merging into the next.
Healing is a cyclical experience, as is the impact of trauma and what happens to us during the transformative trimesters of pregnancy, birth and postpartum (the changes of our bodies, the shifts in our identity), will ultimately shape HOW we mother and WHO we are as mothers.
We are transformed permanently, psychologically and physically.
There is a shift of our root perspective and a restructuring of our internal consciousness so that we are never going to be able to see life as we saw it before. We may outgrow friendships, reassess priorities and start to grieve the deep knowing that we are leaving behind a way of life that we so independently worked hard to create.
Once our babies are born, we view postpartum as the opportunity to heal, but there is no going back to who we were before birth, or even before pregnancy. Yes, who we were lives within us, stored in our nervous system and memories, even surfacing with emotional and behavioural patterns, but we cannot turn back the clock.
What can we do to bring a sense of closure to each chapter of your motherhood journey? (Pregnancy, birth and postpartum
Take responsibility for your own healing.
Deepen your involvement of understanding what is happening to your body as it grows and births your children (and why).
Prioritising nourishing self-care through your childbearing time keeps you connected to your body and baby, stimulating your awareness, instinct and intuition. (It also engages your sense of self-responsibility, a desirable if not essential asset in the realm of birth and parenting).
Work to develop an ongoing, confident relationship with yourself so as you can support your ongoing wellbeing.
By always playing a proactive part in our journey we can work to understand and to feel into the stages and layers of change, not only in our body but also the shifts in our thought patterns and experienced emotions.
To feel prepared for your birth and supported during your postpartum recovery, Vanessa is available at Auckland Physiotherapy for appointments on Fridays and Saturdays. 'Click here' to book.